empowering me first, always 💋

Hiiiiiiii hello cutie angels I’ve missed you!! 🫶🏼 I don’t even think it’s been super long, only 2.5 weeks but I feel like I was in a really solid flow of writing and banking these, until I kind of realized I really like being able to just write and share right away and so okay you know what, as I’m writing this I’m playing with the idea that I literally have recognized in this last 8 months that part of my POWER in this lifetime will come from cultivating some badass balance and that is always going to look different. Hahahahah we’ve gone over this already but I suppose I'm simply reminding myself that it’s okay if sometimes I write a handful of these to have them to share over time and other times I’ll be in periods where I only feel inspired to write and share in the moment. This is what I’m big time realizing life is about, is riding with the waves rather than trying to go against them because when the fk does that ever work well am I right??? I think I’m def right there.

Okay so now that we’ve addressed the (not so) subtle anxiety that was creeping in surrounding how I’m managing my own passions, hahahahah saying it out loud (typing it) makes it sound funny, it’s simply not that deep sar!!!...I feel like we can bring something fun to the table. This one’s been on my heart for months to be honest, I suppose I was just waiting to feel the call to write about it with clarity but a few months ago someone said to me, as I was sharing with them that I’m very much doing me and living my best life and not seeking out anything in the romantic world unless it’s very specific.. but they said “ya but at some point you have to have your needs met..” and without hesitation I just replied “I meet all my own needs”.. 👀 And they kind of looked at me dumbfounded a little bit as in like, what a concept!...maybe she’s nuts or is she onto something?... at least that's how i interpreted their expression lol, and I thought a lot about that conversation afterwards and I’m STILL THINKING ABOUT it clearly hahahah because I am genuinely curious that as a collective, in 2025, are we still out here thinking that another person is going to come along and complete us?! Let’s rewire this narrative a little, shake it up if you will….

Don’t get me wrong, somewhere along the way through my human experience I’ve for sure had moments of buying into that narrative of two halves make a whole or I know I’ll feel complete when I have that person etc… AND THEN I spent the majority of my 20’s single, really getting to know myself and learning that those are all simply toxic beliefs 🥹 and by toxic I mean limiting because if we’re out here living our lives waiting for someone else to come along and make us whole or complete us, we’re missing the whole point and that makes me want to cry big alligator tears. In my super deep dive in these last 8 months of getting to know my soul self I am learning big time that we are here to do exactly that. Know ourselves so deeply on a soul level so that we can follow what is true to us and explore our passions and what lights us up, and to know what it takes to support ourselves entirely along the way. Here’s the thing though, at the end of the day we are humans and we need community and support from others to truly thrive, AND also you need to do the work to get to know yourself to be able to know how you can receive that support!!! Because if you get yourself to a place where you’re relying on a partner or someone else to have something specific in your life, you will then depend on that person if you’ve never become familiar with how to provide it for yourself and that’s where it becomes limiting. You’re giving away your power before even having tapped into it!! 

Being able to know what you require, what supports you in the best ways, what makes you happy and what lights your soul on fire, are all things that hold such power in exploring as an individual and it becomes that much more magical when someone else comes along to be able to support you in those ways or share the weight in it as we navigate this wild crazy lush human experience 🧚🏼 I’m giving vague context but maybe to be a little more specific, I’ve always been someone that fully supports myself financially and since I’ve never really had a consistent, solid recurring income as I’ve been in the hospitality industry and network marketing most of my adult life, I can definitely remember a time where I thought “well it would be nice to be with someone that does have that security”...not only to catch myself and think okay but then what happens when I rely on them for that, and then don’t want to be with them anymore but I’m not financially secure? Surely we can all share the visualization there…. Or what about the juicy example of me doing a lot of healing work from requiring external validation.. I used to rely on that from others to determine my worth and that wasn’t REALLY getting me anywhere in terms of my self worth and confidence hahahah so we can imagine how that plays out with insecurity levels.. Hm we could get even juicer and talk about our sexual needs as I’m pretty sure that’s probably what my pal was referring to in being single and not having my needs met but for the love of god, I will scream this one from the rooftops all day, if you’re not taking the time to get to know yourself energetically, sensually, sexually, physically, in all the ways that fulfill your needs and make you feel the absolute best and vibrant version of yourself, how the fk would you expect someone else to be able to??? Like honestly that one’s just too good. And yes I know the magic of intimacy with others and how special that is but I promise you it will never be next level magic unless you create that with yourself first 🫦 but also as I’m saying this I wonder if the energetic and emotional piece is almost more magic hehe… you didn’t come to this space for surface level so to stay on brand, that emotional regulation that you might rely on someone else for, perhaps start there and learn how to regulate your nervous system, meet the needs of your inner child that’s craving for you to soothe their sadness, calm their worries, shine a light on their fears and hold their hand through challenge. Start with those sexy lil needs and watch how the rest seems like light work 😉

That being said, it’s a LOT of fun to do this work alongside someone that holds space for you to do that and that encourages and pushes you to, while they support you in whatever ways they can!!!!! I think the whole point of what I’m trying to convey is simply that until you explore what all of your needs are and how to meet them, how can we expect someone else to support us in that in the most beautiful and aligned way!! 

Hmmm this is such a fun and cute topic, I would come back in with a spicy hot take hehe. If learning about yourself on a deep level is something you’re looking to dive into, I am currently building a business around holding space for you to do so and would love to work with you so don’t hesitate to reach out because you know I love a silly little deep dive into a soul 🥹 and if you’re already navigating these waters I fkn love that for you!! You are definitely worth getting to know <3 

xx Sarah